Psychology says the people described as having a strong personality aren’t dominant or difficult, they’re the ones who stopped softening themselves to make every room comfortable, and what reads as intensity from the outside is just the absence of the apology most people are still adding to every sentence
There’s a guy I used to work with, back in the warehouse days in Melbourne, who everyone called “a lot.” He wasn’t loud. He wasn’t rude. He just said what he thought without spending the first ten seconds of every sentence apologising for thinking it. People found him exhausting.…