People expect marriage to get harder with age, but many couples describe the opposite — a softening that arrives once they stop trying to change each other and start trying to enjoy what’s left
My husband’s grandparents have been married forty-three years, and the clearest picture I have of their marriage is the two of them at the kitchen counter on a Sunday morning. He loads the dishwasher wrong, by any reasonable standard, plates leaning against glasses, mugs in the b…