Psychology says people who go very still when they’re upset — no fidgeting, no shifting, almost no movement — aren’t calm or indifferent; they’re often the ones for whom stillness became the only safe response to something overwhelming
Years ago, in a kitchen I part-owned, I watched a chef come apart at a line cook during a Friday rush. Full opera. Pans, volume, the works. And the kid on the receiving end did something I’ve never forgotten. He went completely still. No flinch, no backchat, no shuffling of feet.…